Having a second child or not, have you thought about it?
Having a second child or not, have you thought about it? I’m going to tell you what my experience was when I decided to grow my family.
When Manu was born, my husband and I always thought that God would give us the blessing of being able to give him a little sister or brother.
It was always in our plans, but I wanted to wait a bit to give my little Manu all the time he needed. Also to feel that I was ready and to prepare my body.
It was definitely something we wanted and planned together. Before taking a step forward towards the search of another child, both you and your partner need to be honest about whether this is really what you want.
I particularly believe that a brother or sister is a great gift as he becomes your friend, confidant, partner and support in life. However, I also know that we all have different circumstances and that this is not a decision to be made lightly.
Get your body ready
Once you have made the decision, the next step is to go easy and give yourself some time to prepare your body.
Although each woman is different and the puerperium stage lasts 40 days, I recommend that you go little by little.
It has been demonstrated that a woman needs a minimum of one year to get the strength back to carry a pregnancy.
In fact, the World Health Organization recommends waiting 18 months and suggests that shorter intervals are associated with greater risk to the baby, including preterm birth, low birth weight, and other pediatric complications.
Each one of us knows when it is the right time, we can feel it, but it is worth going to your gynecologist, taking care of your diet and taking vitamins. Remember that you are not alone and that bringing a new life is no small thing.
A decision made by the couple
Whether or not to have a second child is something that is decided and enjoyed as a couple. As I told you, my husband and I discussed it and the day it came true it was beautiful.
I remember that just on Father’s Day, his second Father’s Day, Manu and I gave him the news that I was pregnant and that we were going to have another baby. It was very nice.
Thank God I had two wonderful pregnancies, without any complications.
And Emiliano arrived. When we found out that he was going to be another boy I was delighted. I always thought that I was going to be a mother of girls and it turned out that God had other plans for me, which I love and am infinitely grateful for. I am so happy to be a mother of two boys that I don’t need anything else.
This is true
All mothers say this, but you will understand me because it is true, all we want is for our babies to be well, healthy, have free souls, happy and that they come into this world to transform everything. The rest does not matter.
Today I want to tell you that I am the happy mother of two beautiful boys and that I am going to do everything in my power to make them happy and good people, with goals in life.
In other words, you don’t have to give them everything, but encourage them to achieve things for themselves, to fight for their dreams and never give up.
I can assure you that, in the long run, our children will thank us much more if you teach them to work hard rather than making everything easy for them, because the day they go out into the world they won’t know how to fight for their dreams.
Well, that’s how we decided to have a second baby.
So far, I can tell you that we want to be a family of 4, but I don’t know, there is a proverb that says, “Tell God about your plans…”
I’m Anahí and I am looking forward to meeting you in my next article in Baby Creysi.
Translated by: Ligia M. Oliver Manrique de Lara
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